Changing me, to suit you ??

Hello again and Happy Easter


As you may or may not know, over the last few months, I have been on the start of a journey, to, hopefully, find my 'purpose' in life. Or at the very least, becoming a better, improved version of the old me.
This is working well so far and I'm already seeing the benefits of my new mindset, plus the rewards of treating other people in a more positive way.


This has led, to me being more aware of how I am in other peoples company, but also how people behave in my company.




Now, if you don't know me, I'll explain a little about my character.
I do tend to be quite a positive, happy type of person most of the time, although at some points over the last few years and up until a couple of months ago, if I got grumpy, I got very grumpy, that however has changed hugely recently (the grumpy part).


You may think these are good qualities to have, which in general they are, I love being me :-)


The trouble I have been having recently, which has led to me setting myself a little challenge, is the way other people react to me.
Now, as I said before I love being me and up until a couple of weeks ago, I wouldn't really try and change the way I am (me) in anyones company, I'm me, why try to be something else, right ??


This is something I do still believe, something I still try and live by.
But I have noticed, since I began to be more aware of how, I deal with people and people deal with me a few people can't cope with me.


You see a lot of the time and this happens more regularly now, as I become the 'new, better' me. I am too much for people to deal with (their words)


Let me explain, when I am happy, I have this huge ball of excitement, love and general happiness, inside which I struggle to contain, its like I have to impose and share it with everyone and anyone. Methods I have and do use, tend to be constant excitable chatter, singing, dancing, joking,  general carrying on, talking (a lot), smiling and laughing (without reason, crazy I know).


Which, just looking at that lists, seems cool, eh ?
Unfortunately, some people can't cope with this (unless they are in the 'mood' for me) and try to dampen my spirit or tell me to stop singing, carrying on, talking so much etc
Which really, really (used to) annoyed me, I couldn't understand, why people would rather bring me down to their level of unhappy, grumpy state of mind, rather than let my happiness and energy raise their day up, even a little.


You'll know what I mean, when you're having a great day, you're in top form and enjoying the moment, when someone will ask you "Why are you so happy?" as if you really need a very special reason to have a smile on your face, that you're gladly sharing with any and everyone. Again this used to drive me nuts, why should I feel the need to explain why I'm smiling or happy ! As I say I would actually allow this to put me in a mood, strange eh !


So over the last week, I decided something must change, I was no longer willing to allow other peoples bad days, make my day worse.
Before I go on, I would like to clear something up.
I do appreciate I can be full, full on at times and not everyone can cope with that, thats not the problem I have, as I usually don't hang about with these kinds of people anyway. The issue I have is with people who love me, being me, but just when it suits their mood, when they're 'up' for it. 
These are the ones that (used to) upset me most.




It was a constant guessing game, can I be happy with them today ? Will they tell me to calm down, be quiet ? If I try to be quiet, will they then ask me whats wrong, why amI grumpy ?? When I am in actual fact just trying to keep it all in.


This is what I decided to do about it, so no one has to deal with me, that can't.
After several weeks, realising who does and doesn't like duracell bunny Craig, and who I need to keep myself restrained with. I tested out the new Craig this week, when I was in a super, amazing mood, which as I say, happens more often now, than ever before I make sure I pass this on and share it, with the people who love it, whether this is in person, or by e-mailing, messaging some like minded people and just sharing some witty banter or just send a cool, funny message, thats what I'll do.


Whereas if I'm somewhere or with someone I know isn't 'in the mood' or not going to get anything from my happiness, I am learning to keep it all inside me, all the stupid nonsense, the carry on, the jokes everything.
Which, from the outside looking in, may seem like I have lowered my mood, to suit someone else, but nothing could be further from the truth, it has actually extended my 'happiness' period.


You see inside me, I am bubbling with excitement and happiness, (although outwardly, I'll be quiet and on 'their level') planning who I'm going to share all this love of life and joy with, just as soon as I can, as soon as I can get away from the 'downer' for want of a better word.
As I say I understand people, aren't happy 24/7, I'm certainly not. So I'm willing to let them stay in there 'woe is me' 'I'm having a bad day' 'not in the mood to be cheered up??' mood and I won't try to cheer them up, but more importantly I won't let them bring me down.




So far its working brilliantly and the ones who 'enjoy' me are getting more of me, the ones who don't aren't. Its a no lose situation. 
I nearly said everyones happy, but that wouldn't be true now, would it.

So I will be carrying on this 'new' method of allowing myself to stay myself, while letting those around me, be whatever they want to be :-)

Last note, to those that think I'm having a go, trust me I'm not. If anyone appreciates how full on I can be at times, its me. I have to be Craig 24 hours a day, everyday. 

You get me in small doses, every now and then. 

But you know what I have made my life better, just by being in it :-) ha ha

This has probably turned into a slightly mad ramble, but hey ho

I am Craig Lowe, what else would you expect ?

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Who is taking the credit, for your results ?

Hi again, Craig Lowe here (You probably know that though)

Todays post could be for YOU, to help you stand up and bask in your own glory, take the plaudits for your hard work, to hopefully help you realise you are awesome.

This particular post isn't aimed at everyone, although I believe everyone has the potential to be truly awesome, in whatever they choose to be.

No, this is aimed at people, who are very close to my heart, those that have been on, or are still on, a fitness, weight loss, health regaining journey etc.

I sadly, have noticed a huge trend recently on facebook, papers, magazines, gyms, flyers etc with a lot these 'top' (mind you some are) personal trainers, nutritionalists, slimming clubs, celebrity endorsed diets and workouts.
Providing, the traditional before and after photos, the promise of losing a clothes size in a month etc.
Look at me, I'm the best, with my unique fat loss, body shape changing, specially designed program, that guarantees the fastest, healthiest way to change your body ever.

In actual fact I am one of these trainers.

And a lot of these people are truly at the top of their field at what they do, but also a lot are a long, long, long way away from providing, correct, healthy guidance too ( basically they just want your money)

The thing with all of the above, is the trend, for the trainers, nutritionalists to take away your glory, your limelight, the fact it is actually YOU who gets these results. Even YOU don't accept the compliments, the 'glory' and say 'yeah ................has really changed my life,' or 'if it wasn't for ................., I'd still be fat, unhealthy, unfit etc'

Well now is the time to realise, YOU'RE the one thats been the biggest influence in your life, yes YOU.


This is the point of this post, to help you realise how good you are.

I personally (after all this blog is I am Craig Lowe) believe too many people who have been through or are still on one of these incredible journeys, following exercise and nutritional guidelines, set out by your Personal Trainer, your Fitness camp, boot camp, fitness magazine, slimming club, diet plan, whoever, whether good or bad, are allowing that personal trainer, that Fitness camp, bootcamp, magazine etc to steal, some, if not all your glory.

Lost ? No idea what I mean ?
Surely if it wasn't for those people, those programs, I would never of reached my goals, or at least be heading towards them, I hear you say.

Yes, that may in fact be true, but unless these people are with you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, rather than the 1,2, 3 (or maybe even never) sessions, hours, camps a week, then what you actually need to start realising is these results are actually down to YOU, no one else, just YOU.

YOU'RE the one, who gets up every morning with a drive and determination to keep working towards your goals,  YOU'RE the one, making the healthy food choices (I don't know many trainers, fitness camp coaches or nutritionalists, who sit at every meal with their clients and campers) YOU'RE the one getting yourself to those sessions, camps.
Following the program, hopefully designed for YOUR goals.
YOU'RE the one saying no, when offered that slice of cake, that bit of chocolate, the wee drink after work.

This isn't your trainer, saying no, this is YOU


So stand up, take the glory, don't let someone who sees you for maybe 3 hours a week, take all the credit for YOUR results.

Be extremely proud of YOURself, learn to accept the fact YOU have done a truly amazing job.
These are YOUR results, not theirs.

No one stayed with you every second of your journey, no one was with you making those correct choices.
Even if the only exercise you do, is always supervised, whether 1:1 or in group sessions, YOU still need to push your own limits, no one, not even the best trainers in the world can make YOU do anything, yes they will motivate, inspire and guide you. But YOU have to want it.

So be proud, be arrogant (in the best possible sense) accept the plaudits, the compliments, YOU have worked hard enough for them.

This is for YOU

YOU are amazing, never forget that,  no one can take away what YOU have achieved, except YOU.


YOU don't belong to anyone, just because you followed their guidelines or programs.
YOU'RE more than just a marketing tool for them, YOU are YOU, the best person anyone can be.

So, when someone asks you, if you've lost weight, or been training, admit it, say 'Yes, I have', 'I have been dedicated, determined, strong, purposeful, faithful (to my plan)' 'I have gave up my old bad habits and choices, everyday I'm working towards my goals' yes ME, I'm the one thats done the work, refused to give up, when it was easier to say yes, I said no, to cakes, chocolate, staying in bed, instead of going to exercise.

I have done extremely well and will continue on this journey. Enjoy being a success, you can be a role model to others, allow people to ask you questions, help people do what you have done.
You are now, an inspiration, don't just pass that off, as someone else's work.
Be proud, stand tall, I for one am in total awe of where you are now, compared to where you were.


You rock !!!!




Unfortunately, there is a downside too, if your not happy with YOUR results, body shape or fitness levels, that is down to YOUR choices too, either wrong trainer, program, food choices etc
That is YOUR decisions too.



Now before every trainer goes off on a rant, this is not knocking what you do, I am a trainer, I use these results to sell myself too, thats not what this post was about.
This is aimed at getting people to be more proud of what they have actually done for themselves.
To realise the dedication, everyday, every choice, every workout, they DO it, not us.
Show them, how to enjoy the plaudits, we all certainly seem to be able to enjoy them, for them !


Thanks for reading

I am Craig Lowe

This is MY blog